There was a time I must confess when I did not want to become a mother. I wondered why people were over populating this beautiful earth. I always felt that people should bring babies from the orphanage and love them as their own which is something I feel for even today. Why have surrogate mothers, why have cousins or relatives reproduce for you when there are so many in the world waiting for you.
Destiny however chooses its own course.
Six years back I became mamma to my beautiful daughter. Six years back I became mamma to every child.
And then gradually as my heart melted for any child whom I knew or knew not, it dawned to me why motherhood is so important a milestone in the journey of a woman as a woman.
Some women give birth to a number of children and never become mothers.
Some women never conceive never give birth to a single child and are mothers in every sense of the word.
Motherhood does not seem to be a word coined for women who merely become instruments in the hands of nature simply to give to the world the species of their own kind and to populate the earth.
The day the child is born to you it is not the birth of a child alone it is the birth of a new woman....the birth of a mother.
Motherhood surely is a quality of one's being.It is a total alchemy. It is more about patience, selflessness, listening to the other, empathy, reponsiveness and above any thing else......unconditional love...........the ability to give and give.......without ever asking for returns, without ever asking why and without ever closing one's heart.
(the photo given above is that of Sushmita Sen, former Miss Universe and an actor alongwith her daughter whom she adopted from an orphanage years back when Ms. Sen was very young. I respect her for not only this but for the beautiful relationship she shares with her child.)